by Joe Bollig
OVERLAND PARK — It’s easy, in the abstract, to talk about forgiveness. However, doing it in reality is extremely difficult, as Allison Darby Boddicker knows.
Her father, Mike Darby, was murdered on the Indian Creek Trail in Overland Park in 2017.
Boddicker, a member of Church of the Ascension in Overland Park, was dealing with her anger and grief when she decided to take a course on forgiveness offered in the fall of 2018 by fellow parishioner Chuck Jansen.
It changed his life. And when Jansen decided to create an online Forgiveness 101 course, she accepted his invitation to be a part of it.
“I am sharing my testimony from the day my father was murdered and how I felt,” Boddicker said. “After that, I describe meeting Chuck Jansen and starting my own forgiveness journey with his forgiveness class — how it gave me the tools I needed, so I could model it for my kids. “
Jansen, married with three adult children, has a bachelor’s degree in theology from Loyola University Chicago. He taught a variety of faith-related classes in Chicago for seven years and for five years at Bishop Miege High School in Roeland Park.
Later, he became a real estate agent, but continued to be heavily involved in his parish.
In 2013, when he and then pastor, Msgr. Thomas Tank was visiting, Jansen asked him where there was a need in the parish.
“He said we had 3,000 families in the parish and about half of them had someone who didn’t talk to anyone else,” Jansen said. “[Msgr. Tank] asked me to design a course that would help people change and forgive themselves, repent, and adopt a new attitude.
Families were coming together at funerals, weddings, Thanksgiving dinners, birthdays — and people weren’t talking to each other, acknowledging a problem, or knowing what to do about the estrangement.
Jansen began teaching his Pardon 101 course at the parish several times a year for the next nine years, and it grew. Deacon Dana Nearmyer, archdiocesan director of evangelism, encouraged him to make it an online course.
Jansen therefore created Forgiveness Institute KC, a 501(c)(3) non-profit charity, and a website (yeabut.org), and the course has been taken over by the cloud-based learning and development platform”mycatholicfaithdelivered.com.”
In total, it took 11 months to develop the five-day course. After being approved by the Archdiocese, it has been offered since January.
“Working with ‘mycatholicfaithdelivered.com’,” Jansen said, “we’ve put together a whole conglomeration of stuff — music videos, scriptures, PowerPoint slides, video clips, a prayer service, and even a podcast of the day. “.
The course features three different color-coded tracks – blue, green and red – to give people options on how deep they want to go. The paths are like hiking trails offering varying degrees of challenge.
Additionally, the course offers various tools that participants can choose from.
“We designed the course as a buffet table,” Jansen said. “He has a lot of tools [from which] the individual user can choose the ones he likes.
The online course can be taken individually or in groups – prayer groups, Bible study groups, RCIA programs, adult faith training and more. The cost is $25.
To register for the course, go online to: yeabut.org. Scroll down and click on “Take the online course”. This will take you to “mycatholicfaithdelivered.com.” Follow the instructions to register and pay for the course.
“I pray that the Holy Spirit will use this course, that people see it as a tool to heal, restore and bring hope,” Jansen said. “I truly believe that the path to meaningful relationships is through forgiveness. That’s the crux of the gospel and the crux of the Christian message – how to forgive one another.